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Several capacity of a sales pitch followed by a few pages of useful instructions. The pitch condemns everything and everyone for doing it incorrect, including meditation and therapy; the instructions are so based on mindfulness and common therapy methods. The book tin can surely be useful but she has something to say for 20 pages not 300.

Apr 14, 2020 Jeremy rated it information technology was amazing

Notes:

+ Fear is part of yous, so going to war with information technology is going to state of war with yourself
- Warring with your emotions is like putting a kink in a hose, information technology stops the menstruation of all emotions, including the pleasant ones

+ Repressed fear is the root of many bug
- When we lock fear in the basement (body), it gets more ambitious about getting its message across to us

+ Fright is the CEO, Thinking Mind is the COO
- Of course there is reason to be afraid, the human experience is sometimes vulnerable and terrifyi

Notes:

+ Fear is function of you, so going to war with information technology is going to war with yourself
- Warring with your emotions is like putting a kink in a hose, information technology stops the menstruation of all emotions, including the pleasant ones

+ Repressed fearfulness is the root of many issues
- When nosotros lock fear in the basement (body), it gets more than aggressive virtually getting its message across to the states

+ Fear is the CEO, Thinking Mind is the COO
- Of class there is reason to be afraid, the human experience is sometimes vulnerable and terrifying

+ "Let it exist" is more helpful than "Let it get"
- Thoughts and feelings will come up and get equally they delight, and so we can't really permit them get, merely we can allow go of resistance to them, permit go of clinging, let go of command

+ Exercise practice
- Exhale in fear and breathe out the hope of ever getting rid of it

+ Body awareness
- Noticing, cypher more than
- Not fixing, understanding, analyzing, questioning, or changing; just noticing
- This is concrete intelligence

+ It takes two wings to fly
- We need lite and dark emotions

+ Work on becoming a "Human-Being"
- Human (you lot are carve up and don't experience okay): Thinking Heed labels and divides thoughts and feelings into good/bad, acceptable/unacceptable, okay/non okay
- Beingness (you are connected and feel okay): Beyond thoughts and feelings and the judgments of the Thinking Mind
- Human Existence (you are connected and beyond while also beingness dissever and finite; this is okay and not okay): Fully experience the okay and the not okay. Don't drag the spiritual sense of connectedness over the human experience of separateness. You will e'er come back down to earth and this not-okayness is okay

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[Becoming a warrior] is nearly turning away from your quondam belief that Fear is a hindrance and instead walk in the opposite direction, toward recognizing that Fear is not only an nugget and an ally, just one of the greatest experiences you'll have in your lifetime.

Fear was only a simple emotion, a discomfort in her body warning of danger, and that it only had her best interests in mind. Fear was never the trouble and then; her reaction to Fear was the problem, making it difficult for Fear to get its message across or exercise its job. She saw how fighting information technology not only was a dead end, but was really causing all her horrific symptoms.

You lot are a corporation fabricated up of ten,000 individual employees… Imagine that in this corporation chosen (Your Name), none of the ten,000 employees know their task title, their job description, who'due south dominate, or even what they're manufacturing. How well would that corporation run?... Fear is a big deal, because it's commonly the ringleader of the wildcat faction.

If left unchallenged (and it usually is), the Thinking Mind ultimately is who yous believe yourself to be.

While, with effort, you may grab glimpses of something across your personal Ego/Thinking Listen, peradventure even quite ofttimes, it doesn't matter: You will always come back to it, again and once again. Your Ego is your man fate. No i is without an Ego. And in that separation lies the source of Fear.

There'due south aught yous can do about it, really. Everything you love—whether it's people, passions, objects, states of being, or your sanity—will be taken away from you at some point, and non on your terms. And that'south merely downright terrifying… Separateness—not the Fear—is the "problem." The Fear is just the ultimate result.

Eventually, the fright of staying separate forever overshadows the fear of rejection, and y'all pursue relationships despite the fact that you may be rejected (which, at some point, y'all will be).

In that location is no such affair as a expert or bad emotion; there is only emotion. But if an emotion feels uncomfortable in a way you don't like, you call it a bad emotion.

Y'all can control emotions near equally much as you can control breathing: a petty scrap, but not for long. You couldn't commit suicide by holding your jiff—you'd just pass out, and breathing would resume. The same applies to Fear. The moment you lot drop your guard, Fearfulness will come back. It's as innate as breathing. It cannot, will not, be denied for long.

Wanting to be better, different, and other than yourself offers, on the one hand, corking motivation to improve yourself. Simply there's a dark side to this drive. When we want Fearfulness to become away or be different, this suggests it'southward a trouble that must be stock-still. And since Fear is a part of you, that ways you lot must exist fixed. If yous need to be stock-still, that means you're broken. So your attention becomes focused on how broken you are and what's incorrect with you, which leads to toil, struggle, and shoddy self-esteem… If you don't similar Fear, you lot don't like yourself.

Fear has now become the other that you need to fight or take flight from. Instead of the snake (the situation) being the problem, Fright is at present the problem. The discomfort is the problem.

If there's a problem in your life, any problem at all, I guarantee that your putting Fear in the basement has something to do with it.

You may non fifty-fifty be aware of Fear anymore; instead you're just crazy jealous, gossip a lot, are shallow, or overeat. That'due south still Fear expressing itself, only in its twisted, covert manner. Which is the only way it speaks if information technology's in the basement.

Any seemingly unpleasant "bad" vocalization you lot won't await at becomes your shadow, the darkness that follows you everywhere, messing up your life. And while you may have stopped noticing it, make no mistake: Everyone else can still see it.

If something is going wrong in your life, the only question to ask is: What dark shadow nearly yourself are yous unwilling to look at and own? And, more of import, what latent Fright are you refusing to acknowledge?

Each voice in your corporation has swell wisdom, and great mirage—every single one. As you're learning, if a voice is repressed, only its delusion comes out. But when whatever phonation is taken out of the basement and owned and honored, simply its wisdom comes out.

Recognize that you're powerless over Fear and Acrimony. Could you do that? You lot'd have to stop trying to command and instead feel and experience these emotions when they show upwardly.

The energy of the cut-off emotion has to go somewhere, and it sure as heck doesn't go into the atmosphere. Emotion is felt in the torso, then when halted, information technology temporarily gets stored in the torso.

There's no such affair as overwhelming Fear. Fear is merely Fright, information technology'due south not overwhelming. But if you've been in a battle with Fright that you can't win, the battle is what becomes overwhelming.

Stress and Anxiety are not the bodily problem—trying to command or "solve" the Stress and Anxiety is the real problem, and the underlying cause behind the excessive symptoms.

If given the option, would you rather feel happy or alive?

You tin't selectively repress an emotion without inadvertently repressing all emotions.

When Fear shows upward, or any vox not in line with what the Controller or the Will wants, it kinks the hose. And Flow immediately stops.

Emotions are meant to exist energy in movement, felt in the trunk.

​The more you try to get rid of Fear, the more afraid you'll experience. The more you attempt to go rid of Acrimony, the angrier you'll experience.

"Paradox [is] Truth standing on her head to become attention." Thousand. Yard. Chesterton

Suffering = Discomfort x Resistance

"A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise homo knows himself to be a fool." Shakespeare

Empower [your emotions] and show them respect; so they won't have to operate covertly, in a twisted mode, from the basement. They will seem radically dissimilar in an instant, and come out the opposite of how you've been experiencing them. They'll become wise assets and allies, operating in a mature way, giving you great insight, motivation, and clear vision.

If your agenda is to "embrace Fear every bit a way to get rid of it," that's another form of trying to conquer Fear, and Fear is too smart for that crap.

Your Thinking Listen is non the correct tool for the chore of feeling your emotions. But you will try to use information technology anyway. Why is that? This phonation rules your life, that's why. It volition try to rule this problem, too, but I assure you lot it is the wrong voice.

Give up all hope of ever controlling Fear; just then you tin can beginning to experience, and starting time to heal.

You didn't overcome the Fear; Fear is what made the whole feel thrilling. You lot overcame the situation… The proper way to depict going through an feel that is challenging, then, is that yous enjoyed the Fear. Non that you lot overcame it.

Information technology'due south the Body's job to feel, non the Mind'due south. Get this at your core. Your mind thinks. Your Torso feels. Which is why you must end thinking almost Fearfulness, in order to feel Fearfulness.

You exercise not awaken by thinking nearly spirituality; it is something you lot must physically experience. You practise not feel your emotions past thinking nearly them; you accept to travel to and live in the place where they exist. Which is in the Body.

"I hear and I forget. I meet and I remember. I exercise and I sympathise." Unknown

Which wins: what the mind says or what the Body does?

Being willing to feel and even embody something yous would normally avoid is the holy grail of life's practice.

Enquire Fearfulness, "What are you afraid of, and what do you see that I don't, that I'm not dealing with?" This is the key to freedom. Whatever you won't wait at is ever the key to freedom… If you find the questions hard, just notice that you've shifted into the voice of the One Trying to Figure It Out, or the voice of Defoliation, neither of which will exist able to answer the questions. Simply shift dorsum and start again. If Fearfulness is still in that location and wants to speak, simply be Fear, and permit it speak for itself. Move how it moves. Information technology will observe its ain answers.

"Step by pace… I tin can't see any other way of accomplishing annihilation." Michael Jordan

The more you lot allow Fear to speak, the less it will have to say, and the less of a hold it will have on you. It's that simple.

Go into whatever voice and spend time there, letting it be, and yous will always organically come up out the other side to a place of liberty.

Fright is not the trouble; Resistance to Fear is the problem.

Which is easier: swimming upstream, or flowing with the river? Both resisting and embracing require effort. But again I ask: Which requires less attempt to go a better result?

"The sun never says to the earth, 'You owe me.' And expect what happens with a beloved like that. It lights upward the whole sky." Hafiz

Accepting Fright is not the aforementioned every bit honoring information technology. It's crucial that you understand the divergence, considering information technology's huge.

"At that place are just two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." Albert Einstein

"Worshiping" is some other word for "surrendering to."

Mental intelligence does not offer the solution to everything. Nor is it the only access to awareness we possess. Then while indeed your intellect is a staggering tool, and without it we couldn't function, if worshiped alone, it can become your greatest weakness. You lose touch with what else is bachelor.

Using your intellect to talk and remember about, evaluate, and command your emotions is not "emotional intelligence." Emotions being a huge part of what makes us human, emotional intelligence is, rather, your power to identify, feel, and express your emotions in a useful, creative, and mature fashion.

Step by stride, Fright will motivate you out of your stuck place and also pull yous into the next level of your potential.

Fear + Breathing = Excitement

Is it really an adventure if in that location'south no Fear?

Life with Fear is raw, real, and cute.

We're all going to die, so why not really live while y'all're here? Come up alive with Fear. Allow it open your heart to the full opportunity and meaning of what it ways to experience, to be fully present, and to be fully human.

You know you can get to ecstasy by intimately connecting in Love with another person. Merely perhaps yous don't know y'all can get there when y'all accept an intimate connection with annihilation. Even hurting. Even discomfort.

If yous took the fearfulness of failure out of the equation, there would exist no excitement. The challenge would be eradicated. The advantage of completing a job well done would end.

Anger that shows upward without integrity is poisonous Anger, and a clear sign that Fear and Anger have been repressed.

I own this free energy. It's mine. Information technology comes from me. I am not a victim to it, but instead made powerful because of it.

When someone is good for you, it ways that both the adept and the (perceived) bad voices are working together.

Loneliness makes Love more than poignant.

Sometimes you lot want Fright. So turn up the knob. Say yep to the spoken language. Fall in love. Sometimes you want Peace. Say no to the spoken communication. Stay single.

Fearlessness is not the absenteeism of Fear—information technology's found by experiencing Peace with Fear.

If you lot feel agape—or, more commonly, have fears (of something) that involve a story, belief, and thought—you're in your head. If you feel free energy and excitement, y'all are in your Torso. The Trunk that exists in the present moment, with no past or future, no story, belief, or thought, is a state of pure, unjudging awareness, truth, and energy.

Connectedness to the universe will e'er be lost. The Zone is merely meant to be temporary.

At that place actually is a higher identify than spiritual intelligence, 1 that includes but isn't limited by it… True Enlightenment is the pursuit and ongoing effort to include all states, seeing and owning all the voices that make you human, and doing your all-time to menses with them.

Your chore in this lifetime is to get fully Human being. Which ways doing your all-time to feel and be all 10,000 voices—in particular Fearfulness, because it will help expand you to the biggest yous possible. This is smashing news. When in Flow, these employees could too exist called the 10,000 motivators or the x,000 energies.

Can I exercise my best to radically embrace and merge with all that arrives moment to moment? Can I brand my life my practise?

Instead of spending your whole life fighting who you are, now you can get down to the epic, wild, uncomfortable, absurd, ignorant, delusional, and wonderful business of… just being who y'all are.

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It is extremely rare that I choose not to end a book. In this case, I simply couldn't force myself through the unfocused ramblings I was existence subjected to. Just like the slaloms the author and then blissfully navigated in her prime, I feel her approach to this topic is in the same manner. All over and unfocused, she attempts to assign analogies to her descriptions. Not only do they fall flat, simply they are inconsistent within themselves.

I would NOT recommend this book to anyone looking to have a prac

It is extremely rare that I cull not to finish a book. In this case, I merely couldn't force myself through the unfocused ramblings I was being subjected to. Just like the slaloms the author and then blissfully navigated in her prime, I feel her approach to this topic is in the same manner. All over and unfocused, she attempts to assign analogies to her descriptions. Not but do they fall flat, but they are inconsistent within themselves.

I would Non recommend this book to anyone looking to take a practical approach to the topic of fright. The writer used her "fear" to become a "ready" and used it every bit an excuse to field of study herself to an abusive relationship in which she rewarded her abuser out of some sense of chasing a high. Maybe she spent too much time in high altitudes where oxygen deprivation is sometimes the king of the mountain.

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Jul 25, 2018 Joyce rated information technology actually liked it

First off, I got a lot out of this book. Ulmer challenges the thought that nosotros can conquer fear -- as a production of the "lizard brain," it is stronger than anything the neocortex has going -- and so we should understand what its purpose is (to be agape) and what to do almost information technology (feel it, and move on). Much of the volume focuses on the brain construction and how the brain works, which I found fascinating.

I did find, though, that the further I went in the book, the weirder it got. Well-nigh 3/4 of the way thro

First off, I got a lot out of this book. Ulmer challenges the idea that we can conquer fright -- as a production of the "lizard encephalon," it is stronger than anything the neocortex has going -- and then nosotros should sympathize what its purpose is (to be afraid) and what to do about it (experience it, and motion on). Much of the book focuses on the brain structure and how the brain works, which I institute fascinating.

I did notice, though, that the further I went in the volume, the weirder information technology got. Nearly iii/4 of the fashion through I said, OK, that'south enough, and declared myself done.

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This is a actually interesting book about learning to cover fright, rather than trying to become rid of it or act similar it isn't in that location. I was unfamiliar with the author's sports career (being more often than not ignorant of all things sports) and the anecdotes are bang-up. She points out that fright is necessary in our lives - we could die without it, then treating it like a cherry-headed stepchild actually makes things worse. Many times nosotros're not even afraid of the state of affairs, nosotros're afraid of fear the emotion that comes This is a really interesting volume nigh learning to embrace fearfulness, rather than trying to get rid of information technology or act similar it isn't there. I was unfamiliar with the author's sports career (being generally ignorant of all things sports) and the anecdotes are peachy. She points out that fright is necessary in our lives - we could die without it, so treating it similar a scarlet-headed stepchild actually makes things worse. Many times nosotros're non fifty-fifty agape of the situation, we're afraid of fear the emotion that comes out in the situation. Fear gives us energy and drive.

Where the author gets into trouble is when she steps out from discussing fears and the ways in which we tin embrace it (likewise every bit all our other many and necessary emotions) and talks about topics like medication, therapy and meditation, since she conspicuously doesn't accept much of a groundwork here. She parrots the mutual line that antidepressants numb all emotions, but that is but not truthful for everyone - for many people in the depths of clinical low, antidepressants bring them back to life. She also doesn't seem to understand the means in which some types of therapy (such every bit cognitive behavior therapy) actually back up her idea of embracing fright, and similarly that meditation helps people find their emotions, which is necessary to take the next step of actually welcoming the fear and other emotions.

In other words, the discussion virtually emotions and the of import office they play in our lives is well worth reading, simply it'south probably best to skip her opinions about other ways to work through some of these issues.

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Author rudely dismisses all other therapy methods & provides no objective evidence that her ain work. Anecdotal 'prove' from her own larger-than-life experiences make her sound like she'due south got a stick upwardly her arse. She'southward produced 500 pages of unstructured ramblings with but a few helpful sentences thrown in here & there. Writer rudely dismisses all other therapy methods & provides no objective evidence that her own piece of work. Anecdotal 'prove' from her own larger-than-life experiences brand her sound like she's got a stick up her arse. She'due south produced 500 pages of unstructured ramblings with only a few helpful sentences thrown in hither & there. ...more

As well much fluff and not enough substance. Pretty repetitive, although it is definitely useful in parts. Probably could have been about a quarter of the length and had a more powerful touch without all the actress stories and examples that did more to confuse than to enlighten.

It was crap. 300 pages and she didn't say anything

Jul 22, 2017 Cindy Roesel rated it really liked information technology

I've grown upward believing that i is either motivated by dear or fear. Of course, nosotros experience both in our lives, but I know I'm not a fear-based person. I believe I'm influenced by love and attempt to focus on the positive. It's a daily exercise to go along 1's mind in that frame and not let the negativity around us, influence our listen and behavior. (Of class, a good cocktail of anti-depressants can prepare that, correct away.)
A new volume by Kristen Ulmer, THE ART of FEAR (HarperWave) argues fear is misund I've grown up believing that i is either motivated by dearest or fear. Of form, nosotros experience both in our lives, just I know I'thousand non a fear-based person. I believe I'grand influenced by dearest and effort to focus on the positive. It's a daily exercise to go on one's mind in that frame and not let the negativity effectually u.s.a., influence our mind and behavior. (Of grade, a good cocktail of anti-depressants can fix that, right away.)
A new book by Kristen Ulmer, THE ART of Fright (HarperWave) argues fear is misunderstood. That we often ignore it, push by it or somehow overcome information technology, in society to not deal with it. Ulmer believes that by acknowledging and embracing our fright, we tin apply it to our benefit and turn it into a positive forcefulness in our lives.
Kristin Ulmer knows fear actually well. She was recognized equally the best extreme skier in the earth for twelve years, at which time she knew she could get incredibly injured or die every time she put on her skis. In her chit-communicative book, she argues that fear isn't intended to cause us bug, that in fact, the only truthful issue we confront with fearfulness is our misguided reaction to information technology.
Ulmer starts her book by explaining why we've come up to view fear every bit something negative. She gives us the tools to plough our thinking around making fearfulness just one of the any other voices in our head. The tools she teaches explain how nosotros tin learn to alive with fear in the same way we live with joy, honey and gratitude. It'south all about a mindfulness tool she calls an attitude "shift."  This way, Ulmer says we tin experience fright in a simpler, more than authentic manner, transforming our relationship with this emotion and living with our true nature, instead of letting it drain us.
Reading through her book, one learns it's taken Kristen fifteen years as a mindset facilitator to come to this indicate. So if you're thinking about trying this out, don't wait results overnight. But I think anything that leads to a happier, healthier more expansive life is certainly worth giving a shot. ...more

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. I was going to give this volume a 3 star review until the very last folio of the book. Yes this book gives some insightful perspectives on fright equally well equally other emotions that are truthfully continued and effected past fearfulness itself. Which is why i felt the book should receive at to the lowest degree iii stars. I accept to give her a nod on the fashion she approaches the idea of fearfulness and how we can better our relationship with our emotions.

All the same, there are a lot of crappy things about this volume. For starters, she rants on a

I was going to give this volume a iii star review until the very final page of the book. Yes this volume gives some insightful perspectives on fear also every bit other emotions that are truthfully connected and effected by fright itself. Which is why i felt the volume should receive at least 3 stars. I have to give her a nod on the manner she approaches the idea of fear and how we can better our human relationship with our emotions.

Still, there are a lot of crappy things almost this volume. For starters, she rants on and on about things that don't connect well with the topic and you become either lost or uninterested in the point she tries to make. This book was 300 pages long and she could take easily fabricated information technology under 150 pages.

She too writes with a pretty big ego and yous can tell that her enquiry is adequately underwhelming considering of how she clearly assumes things nigh certain practices without existent knowledge of them.

If you want to know the entire point of the book that can be completed in one sentence, it's that you should take time to feel the emotion and enquire it questions about why it feels how information technology does instead of trying to repress it. This eventually minimizes the agree that the emotions (mostly fearfulness) accept over you.

I thought that despite how poorly this book was written, that would enough be worth 3 stars. But, then at the end of the book this lady writes that she still has a complicated relationship with fear and can't even slumber through the whole dark…

I'm in my seat, slap-up upward right now, considering the whole book she was proclaiming how freeing her techniques and messages were!!

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Jul 16, 2020 Fall rated it really liked it

This volume provided me with some very helpful ways to address my issues with stress, anxiety and fear. The idea of a person being the CEO of 10,000 employees (our various emotions, thoughts and minds) really spoke to me and my own existential struggle. I really loved her suggestion that we need to embrace these x,000 employees every bit a good parent would his/her ain children. Instead of immediately judging our thoughts and emotions as "good" or "bad" or badly trying to ignore or suppress This volume provided me with some very helpful means to address my issues with stress, anxiety and fearfulness. The idea of a person being the CEO of 10,000 employees (our diverse emotions, thoughts and minds) really spoke to me and my own existential struggle. I actually loved her proposition that nosotros demand to embrace these 10,000 employees as a good parent would his/her own children. Instead of immediately judging our thoughts and emotions equally "adept" or "bad" or badly trying to ignore or suppress them, nosotros need to welcome them and fully hear them out. I too found the idea of flow and assuasive our bodies to experience our emotions, feelings and thoughts, both the "practiced" and the "bad," very useful. Another plus is that she addresses her topic in a non "woo woo" way, so it makes these ideas accessible to people who don't subscribe to a mindfulness directed way of working on the self. This book will definitely exist helpful to someone even if they don't buy into a meditation/mindfulness practice. ...more

Jun 11, 2018 Michele rated it it was amazing

Wow! Loved information technology! Information technology took awhile for me to resonate with what Kristen teaches. I fifty-fifty considered non finishing the book, simply there was merely enough to keep me reading. I would put the book downward and selection upward a different book I was reading at the same time to clear my head. But, I wanted to "hear" what Kristen was maxim, then I would "chew" on the ideas. And then, about halfway through, nosotros started talking the same language and I started actually "getting" the idea of honoring fearfulness and decided to endeavor it while Wow! Loved it! It took awhile for me to resonate with what Kristen teaches. I even considered non finishing the book, but there was just enough to keep me reading. I would put the book down and pick up a unlike book I was reading at the same time to articulate my head. But, I wanted to "hear" what Kristen was saying, so I would "chew" on the ideas. So, about halfway through, we started talking the same linguistic communication and I started really "getting" the idea of honoring fear and decided to try it while doing doughnuts on a seadoo. Asking myself "what am I feeling now" and "at present" and, how about "now". I am loving the new awareness and acceptance and experience of my feelings, even when the feelings are merely related to mundane concerns. I highly recommend this volume. ...more than

May 12, 2021 PabloPig rated it it was amazing

This is a very well written book that juxtaposes the personal feel of the author with the explanations of the nature of fearfulness and of what we can do to come to grips with it. It is non desultory rambling as some reviewers hither seem to think. By alternating personal accounts with discursive material, Kristen Ulmer draws the reader into the heart of the problem, which is the common misunderstanding of the nature and role of fear.

I listened to the audio version, well read past Jane Oppenheime

This is a very well written volume that juxtaposes the personal feel of the author with the explanations of the nature of fearfulness and of what we can exercise to come to grips with it. It is not sporadic rambling every bit some reviewers hither seem to think. Past alternating personal accounts with discursive cloth, Kristen Ulmer draws the reader into the heart of the problem, which is the common misunderstanding of the nature and function of fearfulness.

I listened to the sound version, well read by Jane Oppenheimer who brings to the text energy and urgency.

I have read a practiced number of books on psychology and spirituality, and find that this 1 contributes something new and important. Information technology is one of the few books I felt impelled to give to friends.

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May 16, 2021 A.M. rated information technology liked information technology

An extreme skier knows about fearfulness, right? The thing is, she knows about it from a side most people don't experience. Mode out on the far side of fear.

And it did her no favours.

She's brutally honest well-nigh her life, her mistakes, and her experiences.

And this championship is of course, a necktie in to her new career of life passenger vehicle. Her thought is that y'all cannot defeat fear; and to endeavor and alive without it would make you feel ... nothing. The only style y'all can walk across the burn is if you feel the fright, your feet

An farthermost skier knows about fear, correct? The thing is, she knows about it from a side most people don't experience. Manner out on the far side of fear.

And it did her no favours.

She's brutally honest about her life, her mistakes, and her experiences.

And this championship is of course, a tie in to her new career of life autobus. Her idea is that you cannot defeat fear; and to try and alive without it would make y'all experience ... nil. The but way you lot can walk beyond the burn down is if you feel the fear, your anxiety sweat, and protect you from the hot dress-down. Feel no fearfulness and your feet become burnt.

Her writing way is quite distinctive and the text is interspersed with asides, stories and quotes.

3 stars

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Nov 21, 2021 Max rated it it was ok

It was hard to rate it. I decided for 2 stars instead of 3 as the at least 100 pages became and so repetitive . She had something to say but inside 100 pages not 300…. I too disagree with some general critics she made about psycho therapy, also as she takes out a couple of theories from it to build her „own" concept of emotional intelligence…

Likewise this she had some good thoughts taking a lot from Buddism and simmilar ares. In general this means don't avoid your emotions Worthisp them fifty-fifty t

It was difficult to charge per unit information technology. I decided for two stars instead of 3 as the at least 100 pages became and so repetitive . She had something to say but within 100 pages not 300…. I also disagree with some general critics she made about psycho therapy, also as she takes out a couple of theories from it to build her „own" concept of emotional intelligence…

Besides this she had some good thoughts taking a lot from Buddism and simmilar ares. In general this ways don't avoid your emotions Worthisp them even the unpleasant once, especially fright . The message is correct and gave me at least another view on an old and important topic

Note: I read in English and made the review in English besides merely I am a non a native English speaker, so sorry for all mistakes.

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I tin can count on ane manus the number of books I haven't been able to, at the very least, toil through to the end. Only I just actually couldn't do this one. A few of the most basic, underlying ideas could be useful for some self-improvement if yous're in a reflective mood - but these could be gleaned from the dust cover alone. The only parts I genuinely enjoyed were the inset stories about her skiing. The rest I establish to be a maddening and ceaseless stream of mixed metaphors and humorously bad parable I can count on 1 hand the number of books I haven't been able to, at the very least, toil through to the end. Simply I just really couldn't practise this one. A few of the near basic, underlying ideas could be useful for some self-improvement if you're in a reflective mood - but these could be gleaned from the grit encompass solitary. The only parts I genuinely enjoyed were the inset stories near her skiing. The remainder I institute to exist a maddening and ceaseless stream of mixed metaphors and humorously bad parables combined with what I think is some genuinely concerning stuff regarding her opinions on therapy & science. ...more than

Finally! A cocky-assist book that doesn't fall back in meditation and "just animate" every bit the solution to all of your inner turmoil issues.

If yous bargain with feet, struggle to empathize and recognize emotions, or are but tired of the constant flow of nonsense self-help books, I highly recommend this book.

Kristen Ulmer shares her own strategies in dealing with fear and other emotions that we tend to perceive in a negative light. As she is a highly accomplished athlete and professional person in her o

Finally! A self-help book that doesn't fall dorsum in meditation and "just breathing" as the solution to all of your inner turmoil problems.

If you deal with anxiety, struggle to sympathize and recognize emotions, or are just tired of the constant flow of nonsense cocky-help books, I highly recommend this book.

Kristen Ulmer shares her ain strategies in dealing with fear and other emotions that we tend to perceive in a negative calorie-free. As she is a highly accomplished athlete and professional in her own life, it is much easier to lend credence to her claims than it is with many authors of psychology books.

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This volume is Zen with the attitude of a sometime extreme skier—which the author is. The start half reads similar an EST session, where the writer is calling out all your contradictions, and hers. It likewise feels like a buildup that makes you lot wonder: Is this just hype or she going to deliver the promised key to enlightenment? The 2nd half of the book does offer some thought exercises that, if done seriously, really seem to offering a way of getting in bear upon with all your feelings in a very useful way. I This book is Zen with the attitude of a one-time extreme skier—which the writer is. The starting time half reads similar an EST session, where the author is calling out all your contradictions, and hers. It also feels like a buildup that makes you lot wonder: Is this only hype or she going to evangelize the promised key to enlightenment? The 2d half of the volume does offer some thought exercises that, if done seriously, actually seem to offering a style of getting in touch with all your feelings in a very useful way. I learned something here, and encounter a style to proceed learning. Thanks! ...more

Nov 12, 2018 Yoric rated it information technology was ok

I like this concept, that fear comes from our perception of separation. (the opposite of wholeness).
This ways if we could accept power over our fears with condign more enlightened of being connected.

With this inevitable separation, everything and everybody—which are no longer part of y'all—become unfamiliar and unknown. And because you lot don't know what they are or what they're upward to, you lot are now vulnerable to them, and they can hurt you.

"For the story of your dance with Fear is the story of your life"

I'm not sure whether I agreed with everything in this book, just continued reading out of sheer respect for the author. Found it so interesting to read about the places and experiences she has been to and through and how central Fright was to her and how it has and always volition be her greatest love.

Aug xxx, 2017 Kristy rated information technology liked it

I enjoyed this book although I felt myself getting lost at times. I wish there were summaries at the stop of the chapters with key takeaways. I loved how there were little stories intertwined along the way

The concept of the book..embracing all your emotions and learning to have and be yourself in each sense is great. It but didn't need to take so long to say it and didn't need all the swearing and rough life examples. The concept of the book..embracing all your emotions and learning to have and be yourself in each sense is great. It just didn't need to take so long to say it and didn't need all the swearing and crude life examples. ...more

information technology'south been a rollercoaster, reading this book, merely like how my human relationship with fright will be like from now on. in that location will be bad times, expert times, merely this book taught me that it'due south okay to take fright. it'due south time to create a loving human relationship with fear. no more repression. it's been a rollercoaster, reading this volume, just like how my human relationship with fear will be like from now on. there will be bad times, skillful times, merely this volume taught me that it's okay to take fear. it's time to create a loving relationship with fearfulness. no more repression. ...more

Mar 10, 2019 Seth Thomson rated it did non similar information technology

First volume I've put down for awhile. The unabridged outset half reads similar a redundant sales pitch, and the writing is not engaging. The bashing of all other methods is a clear warning sign. The cutesy utilise of "ten,000 voices" and the maxim you are the feeling aloud did non reach me. Unsubscribe.

I got through 2/3 of this book and but cipher resonated. I think it would be good for someone who has never done any cocky help just, just not for me. Wayyy too many metaphors including entering a twerking competition.

Just not for me.

Mar xv, 2021 Ieva Luske rated information technology it was amazing

The volume that just blew my mind. It offers refreshing, new perspectives on fear and how we should savour it instead of overcoming it. Honestly, this volume changed the way I deal with my emotions. Brilliant!!

October fifteen, 2018 Alison rated it liked it

Nothing new to learn except the stories of the writer's addiction to, craving for and devouring of fear. Nothing new to learn except the stories of the author's addiction to, craving for and devouring of fear. ...more

Feb 21, 2020 Kenneth Ng rated information technology it was amazing

I enjoyed this book for its ideas, not its writing or style. Ideas were original and something I practice to this solar day.

Kristen Ulmer is idea leader, facilitator and fear specialist who radically challenges existing norms around the field of study of this deeply misunderstood emotion.

Having spent 15 years existence labeled fearless by the outdoor manufacture—named the best woman extreme skier in the world for 12 of those years and voted the N American most extreme woman athlete in all disciplines—Ulmer seeks to end our h

Kristen Ulmer is thought leader, facilitator and fear specialist who radically challenges existing norms around the subject of this deeply misunderstood emotion.

Having spent xv years being labeled fearless by the outdoor industry—named the best woman extreme skier in the world for 12 of those years and voted the North American almost extreme woman athlete in all disciplines—Ulmer seeks to cease our humanity-broad state of war against fear, which will not only resolve many common, epidemic problems we face, but allow us the greatest gamble to achieve our whole-mind potential. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Forbes, NPR, More Magazine, Outside Magazine (4 times), and United states Today (four times) to proper name but a few.

Her book; The Art of Fear; Why Conquering Fear Won't Work and What to Exercise Instead, volition be released on June 13, 2017.

Ulmer lives in Salt Lake City, Utah with her married man Kirk Jellum and their two savannah cats.

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